The Friend Without a Baby

Ooof.. is it just me or is the topic tittle a bit heavy? Depending on where you are at in your life you might feel you completely relate or like I’m a little kooky.

Before I jump into it, I would like to clarify I am currently childless by choice. I know some women may be going through fertility issues so while you can relate, please note this will not be an article offering support as I have no personal experience to share.

Instead this is more for the women that find themself childless because they don’t want kids, they are enjoying their childless era, it seems all their friends are having babies, or perhaps their children are at a self sufficient age.

Did I list your circumstance? Well you’re not alone!

As your friends start having children, it's common to feel left behind and isolated if you are the only one without a baby. It can be difficult to relate to their experiences and find common ground in conversations. You might feel like you no longer fit in with your friend group or feel pressure to start a family yourself.

However, it's important to remember that everyone's journey is different and valid. It's okay to have different priorities and timelines for starting a family. It's also important to communicate your feelings with your friends and find ways to stay connected. You can suggest non-baby related activities or don’t shy away from asking if you can tag along to baby related activities.

Another way to stay connected is to ask them questions! I find myself doing this a lot with my friends. “Was that difficult for you?”, “What’s your favorite part about being a parent?”, “Can I help with anything?”.

Remember that being the only friend without a baby doesn't define your worth or value as a person. It's a temporary phase in life and there are many other fulfilling experiences and relationships to be had. Stay true to yourself and trust that your friendships can evolve and grow in new ways.